Of The Society,For the Society,By the Society :)

We aren't whom we want to be. We are what society demands. We are what our parents choose. We don't want to disappoint anyone .We have a great need to be loved. Thus the light of our dreams turns into the monster of our nightmares. We are puppets of our destiny. My entire life I haven't come across anyone who is completely gratified with his sentience or the kind of life he is living. Nor have I found someone   whose dreams have transpired to legitimate arenas. We are slaves, slaves of others wishes.

Suruchi a friend of mine bought up in a middle class was always a great performer in school and college, but more than academics it was her singing that stole the show. She had dream't of being a national level singer someday. We without doubt considered it rampant in her, since she had that determination and a voice that could give a run for money to any ardent singer. We lost touch after college & I met her after 7 years in a UCB outlet in Gurgaon. Astounded  and elated to find a old friend the thing that  disappointed me was that she had left singing right after college, and was working in a IT company as a software analyst. It’s been years since she sang. Inquisitive about why she left  something she had been so ardently passionate about .She justified  with a despaired voice that her parents never wanted and were able to convince her that once she is done with establishing a career(academics was the only bright career option for them ), she can always go for music. Since then Music has only been a hobby (with the blaze gone) for entertaining friends & relatives. At last what she told me gave a nudge to write this, "Rika what I am doing today I’m working hard for it, but in no way it makes me contented or gives me a sense of gratification of doing something for myself, its only for the happiness of my parents that I’m dragging my life, with a smile on my face & an impulsion to follow.

 It’s not about   Luck (as most people say "his karma is strong enough to allow him do what he wants") but being gutsy enough to be able to elect what we'v  always wanted to do & be victorious at the same time. I don’t think the percentage would be more than 1 out of a 1000 for those lying in this paradigm. It’s true that our parents have a great portrayal in clinching whats favorable and not for us. However the deciding body should be reviewed after a few years, so that children get to make use of their minds & interest & do what their inner soul wants them to. A Gay friend of mine has always been struggling with the god given hormone and the society depicting hormone of the  straight kind. He knows the society is never going to discern, rather if they get to cognize the fact he would be a target of this superficial civilization. The decision he took was a daring one he portsided home, and went to a far away city found a job there and is happily settled. A great decision of not  marrying under the pressure of  the society  and wrecking two peoples lives was taken .We have dreams not done, possibilities not fulfilled. In India where we are so much suppressed by each other’s desires, not realizing that we make decisions in fear of  being compared & dismaying our parents .We tend to chase the masses (cause that's safer) then forging our choices .

Our parents, our society have a great role in setting names for each phase of life. Anybody who demarcate from this is referred as an immoral & indecent creature, not abiding and obeying the fundamental rules set & followed by generation after generation. But has anyone ever thought that ultimately when we die our wishes, our aspirations is inhumed with us, and ultimately turns into ashes and condenses. Guys I know it’s rather a brave soul who takes not to abide and does something exceptional to fulfill his dreams. Wed be rather surprised to know some of these wishes like choosing a career in photography or acting, Being a spinster entire life, not having kids are so bona-fide yet not contemplated in a noble social order.

I have been an obedient & civilized citizen, always consenting & enduring the path chosen by the society ,getting married and have been stagnantly following the benchmark or rather the criterion  set to be a cultured human soul.I want a phase in my life may be a sudden  few years, where i get to do whatever i want  to. I want to learn guitar, I want to get myself certified in Mountaineering, I want to learn sky diving ...I want to, I want to, I want to. I want to spread my wings & fly, fly with all my dreams that Iv longed for & wished for. After that when I’m gone, there would be no regrets. No regrets, since I have seceded all society norms & been a freebie rather then a patterned modeled soul. I promise that day will come soon, very soon.