We aren't whom we want
to be. We are what society demands. We are what our parents choose. We don't
want to disappoint anyone .We have a great need to be loved. Thus the light of
our dreams turns into the monster of our nightmares. We are puppets of our destiny.
My entire life I haven't come across anyone who is completely gratified with
his sentience or the kind of life he is living. Nor have I found someone
whose dreams have transpired to legitimate arenas. We are slaves, slaves of
others wishes.
Suruchi
a friend of mine bought up in a middle class was always a great performer in
school and college, but more than academics it was her singing that stole the show.
She had dream't of being a national level singer someday. We without doubt
considered it rampant in her, since she had that determination and a voice that
could give a run for money to any ardent singer. We lost touch after college
& I met her after 7 years in a UCB outlet in Gurgaon. Astounded and
elated to find a old friend the thing that disappointed me was that she
had left singing right after college, and was working in a IT company as a
software analyst. It’s been years since she sang. Inquisitive about why she
left something she had been so ardently passionate about .She justified
with a despaired voice that her parents never wanted and were able to
convince her that once she is done with establishing a career(academics was the
only bright career option for them ), she can always go for music. Since then
Music has only been a hobby (with the blaze gone) for entertaining friends
& relatives. At last what she told me gave a nudge to write this,
"Rika what I am doing today I’m working hard for it, but in no way it
makes me contented or gives me a sense of gratification of doing something for
myself, its only for the happiness of my parents that I’m dragging my life,
with a smile on my face & an impulsion to follow.
It’s
not about Luck (as most people say "his karma is strong enough to
allow him do what he wants") but being gutsy enough to be able to elect
what we'v always wanted to do & be victorious at the same time. I don’t think
the percentage would be more than 1 out of a 1000 for those lying in this paradigm.
It’s true that our parents have a great portrayal in clinching whats favorable
and not for us. However the deciding body should be reviewed after a few years,
so that children get to make use of their minds & interest & do what
their inner soul wants them to. A Gay friend of mine has always been struggling
with the god given hormone and the society depicting hormone of the
straight kind. He knows the society is never going to discern, rather if
they get to cognize the fact he would be a target of this superficial civilization.
The decision he took was a daring one he portsided home, and went to a far away
city found a job there and is happily settled. A great decision of not
marrying under the pressure of the society and wrecking two
peoples lives was taken .We have dreams not done, possibilities not fulfilled.
In India where we are so much suppressed by each other’s desires, not realizing
that we make decisions in fear of being compared & dismaying our
parents .We tend to chase the masses (cause that's safer) then forging our
choices .
Our
parents, our society have a great role in setting names for each phase of life.
Anybody who demarcate from this is referred as an immoral & indecent
creature, not abiding and obeying the fundamental rules set & followed by
generation after generation. But has anyone ever thought that ultimately when
we die our wishes, our aspirations is inhumed with us, and ultimately turns
into ashes and condenses. Guys I know it’s rather a brave soul who takes not to
abide and does something exceptional to fulfill his dreams. Wed be rather
surprised to know some of these wishes like choosing a career in photography or
acting, Being a spinster entire life, not having kids are so bona-fide yet not
contemplated in a noble social order.
I
have been an obedient & civilized citizen, always consenting & enduring
the path chosen by the society ,getting married and have been stagnantly
following the benchmark or rather the criterion set to be a cultured human soul.I want a phase
in my life may be a sudden few years, where i get to do whatever i want to. I want to learn guitar, I want to get myself certified in Mountaineering,
I want to learn sky diving ...I want to, I want to, I want to. I want to spread
my wings & fly, fly with all my dreams that Iv longed for & wished for.
After that when I’m gone, there would be no regrets. No regrets, since I have
seceded all society norms & been a freebie rather then a patterned modeled soul.
I promise that day will come soon, very soon.
